Singing
Since most of the liturgy is sung or chanted unaccompanied, it
is necessary to keep several points in mind: always sing softly,
never so loud as not to be able to hear the community; men should
not attempt to sing in the lower register; please allow the leader
to intone the first line or phrase of psalms or hymns.
It is not necessary to have any extraordinary
singing ability to participate in the liturgy; however, if you
are truly unable to sing without causing marked dissonance, it
may be best to participate inaudibly or nearly so. This will
not usually be a problem if it is remembered that good singing
begins with careful listening.
Silence
Certain periods of the day are set aside for silence: in the
morning until after the Holy Eucharist or Terce on Sundays and
in the evening after Compline. Please avoid unnecessary or loud
conversation during these times. If you have a question or need,
please ask in as brief and quiet a way as possible.
Out of courtesy to those who may wish to sleep
it is necessary to keep the upper level of the guest house as
free from noise as possible after Compline in the evening and
in the afternoon until after None.
At all times please be sensitive to and respectful
of the desire other guests may have for silence or solitude.
Meals
Dinner and supper follow Sext and Vespers respectively. Please
return from the chapel after those offices and wait in the dining
area of the house for the ringing of a bell, which is the signal
to come to the table. This usually involves only a few minutes
wait. It is not necessary to assist preparing the table unless
you have been asked to do so.
On ordinary weekdays we eat in silence listening
to a taped lecture or book at dinner and to music at supper.
Meals are served family style. Please pass all serving dishes
to the end of the table after having helped yourself. Toward
the end of the meal the dishes will be passed again and you may
take a second helping as available.
Breakfast is eaten in silence on a self-serve
basis. Bread, cereal, coffee, tea, milk, and juice will be available
in the kitchen.
Ordinary Wednesdays and Fridays are observed
as fast days.Dinner is not served on these days but simple foods
will be available after Sext for those who wish to serve themselves.
Breakfast and Supper are served as usual.
Beer and wine are often available with dinner
on Sundays and on certain other occasions. Guests are asked not
to bring with them any alcoholic beverages for private consumption.
Guests are encouraged to use their retreat time in any way that
is profitable for them, and are not expected to do any particular
work. If, however, you feel your retreat would be enhanced by
a time of work, there are often simple tasks or chores with which
guests can help. Please inquire with Father Richard.
Telephone
Collect or credit card calls are preferable for any toll calls.
Please avoid prolonged calls and calling during times of silence.
Bedroom
Your bedroom should provide you with privacy and solitude. Heat
may be regulated by opening or closing the louver on the top
of the baseboard radiator. In warm weather you may open your
window. Check the side latches before turning the window crank!
Bed sheets, blankets, and towels are provided in the rooms.
Lights
In order to conserve energy please turn off all lights that are
not being used. After Compline all lights in the public areas
on the upper and lower levels should be turned off as soon as
they are no longer used. Night lights, of course, are to be left
alone.
Library
The library on the lower level is available for your use. If
you remove books from the shelves please return them to the same
location or place them on one of the tables in the library. Books
should be returned to the library before departure. Sorry, we
do not check out books.
Smoking
Smoking is allowed only out of doors. When smoking please take
every precaution against fire and do not litter the grounds.
Radios and Tape Players
Radios and tape players equipped with earphones may be used at
any time. Those which are played out loud should never be used
unless special arrangements have been made.
The TV in the lower level may ordinarily be
used only after supper and before Compline and Sunday afternoons.
The sound equipment in the commons room should not be used by
guests without permission